Set and Setting: What to discuss prior to the event? What does the subject want to accomplish? Where should it take place? What should the environment be like, i.e. lighting, music, people?
I received a communication yesterday from someone I respect. This person mentioned that treatments should be done in controlled environments, not at my home, and especially not theirs.
This is something I've been wondering about and thinking about. I was somewhat cavalier, I think, in making my home space available for people. I had instinct that there would be no medical emergencies, and I was right.
But what I did find was that it's too much to have the space support both my idea of home and sanctuary, and as a sacred space.
I think the tx space should be far more defined. I felt put out, as the folks were in my bedroom. It's the best room, hardwood floors (for puke) and close to the bathroom, but there were a couple times I wanted something from the room, and not disturbing them was a better idea. Also, having to be so very quiet, no speaking, no pots and pans (I bang a lot of pots and pans, I am a noisy, happy cook).
And making sure I had no visitors, no phone calls, etc.
There's also the point of what would happen if there was a medical emergency (read, death). I have thought about that, and dont like to dwell on it. *shudder*
About not having the journey in their own space, man, this just instinctually feels right. Unless the space could be transformed in prep for the journey, you know? Paint, move furniture, clean all the closets, wash down the window sills, on and on. Good to transform in a space transformed. I can see waking up post ibo and looking at the pile of bills, the laundry, the burnt spoon, the dog poop, whatever your triggers are, and having it be a less than reflective scene. Also, loved ones can be intrusive and, er, controlling.
My two cents for now, one just one question, from just one topic.
What, ideally is a controlled environment? A space dedicated to ibo? A space that is emotionally neutral? What do you think? I like the idea of summertime and the woods, or fall in the desert. (For myself, okay?)